“As long as you’re sexually faithful to your spouse, do you think it’s okay to fantasize about having sex with someone else?”  More adults of all ages said “no” (48 percent) than “yes” (46 percent). Six percent declined to answer. Many people consider fantasies of others “mental unfaithfulness.”

Meanwhile, other surveys have shown that while making love with spouses or regular lovers, the vast majority of people fantasize at least briefly about having sex with other people. In fact, in a survey by University of Vermont researchers, sex with a partner other than one’s regular lover was the single most popular fantasy: 84 percent of the 178 respondents admitted having it during intercourse.

In the Vermont survey, many expressed “significant guilt” about such fantasies, believing them harmful to the relationship.

In this article:

• Sex is Friction Plus Fantasy
• Sex Is a Meditation
• Accept Your Fantasies

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