Many lovers enjoy the special closeness, emotional intimacy, and erotic intensity of intercourse with the man on top. But the according to a great deal of research, only 25 percent of women are consistently orgasmic in the missionary position no matter what size the man’s penis nor how vigorous or prolonged the intercourse.
A growing body of literature shows that for older adults, yoga offers subtle but significant sexual benefits. In a recent study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, Indian researchers surveyed the sexual functioning of 65 men, age 24 to 60, and then taught them yoga. After 12 weeks, the men rated their sexual functioning “significantly improved.” Now this was a small study, so it can’t be considered definitive. But it’s certainly intriguing.
Americans are marrying and having children later in life. Today, many couples get pregnant and have children when one or both are over 40. They face sexual issues that, in previous generations, only younger people experienced. In addition, young parents may turn to older friends and relatives for advice about sex during pregnancy and parenthood, but few people know more than mythology about this major life and sexual transition.
From media reports, one might infer that Catholic priests commit most pedophilia. In fact, only a tiny fraction of child sex abusers are priests.
We know who the pedophiles are from the National Sexual Health Survey (NSHS), a large, comprehensive study of American sexuality based on in-depth interviews in 1996 with a representative sample of 8,400 Americans, age 18 to 88. Although the data are a bit long in the tooth, sexual behavior rarely changes quickly, so this survey can still be considered reasonably current. The NSHS asked about sexual abuse: Have you ever felt forced or frightened into having sex?
Want a more fulfilling sex life? Lose 10 pounds.
Many people who want to lose 10 pounds—or more—enjoy sex. But the few studies that have focused on sex and weight loss agree that people who lose weight enjoy better sex. This might motivate some to stick to a weight-loss programs, but few doctors and weight-control experts mention this.
Clinically, it’s called analingus, colloquially, rimming, and it’s an erotic variation enjoyed by only a small minority of lovers. But many couples are curious about it, and with a little soap and water beforehand, it’s as clean as kissing or oral-genital sex.
If you’re turned off by analingus, don’t do it. But recent surveys suggest that 15 percent of American adults have experienced some form of anal sex—some 20 million people. I’ve found no statistics on the prevalence of rimming. But when many lovers try it, they enjoy it.
Men often brag about their sexual conquests. A man who has sex with lots of women is often called a “stud.” Women don’t brag about having many partners. A woman who is very sexual is often castigated as a “slut.”
But some women are very sexual. Their lives–and their struggles to maintain relationships and their own self-respect while being highly sexual–have not been the subject of much sex research. But one study is intriguing (citation below). Ph.D. candidate, Eric Blumberg of Ferndale, Michigan, interviewed 44 very sexual women. He defined “very sexual” as (1) having six or more orgasms a week solo or with partners, or (2) considering oneself very sexual, with having lots of sex an important element in their lives.
At a conference not long ago, I listened to a well-known sex researcher summarize the sexual hazards of dozens of drugs, both legal and illicit. Her list included marijuana. After her talk, several people asked why.
“Studies show it’s sex-inhibiting,” she replied.
“No it isn’t,” several countered from personal experience. “It’s sex-enhancing.”
Recently, I saw a headline: “Sex After 70? Not Much.” The Bloomberg News story said a new University of Chicago study of 6,000 Americans showed that “the average person’s sex life ends by age 70.”
No way, I thought, so I read the study in the British Medical Journal. It did NOT say sex ends at 70. It said that in every age group, people in good health report interest in sex, but that after age 75, because of medical conditions, the drugs used to treat them, and partner loss, only 39 percent of men and 17 percent of women have regular partner sex.
That depends who you ask. Throughout history in many cultures, herbalists (mostly women) have claimed that ingestion of several plants can increase breast size. But in reports published in medical journals, modern researchers have scoffed at the idea. Over the past 30 years, I’ve written a great deal about herbal medicine. No herbal potion can turn a B cup into a D, but some herbs may, in fact, have some modest effect on breast size.