Extended Cycling May Impair Erection
Exercise is good for sex. Regular exercisers report fewer sex problems and more erotic enjoyment. But extended cycling–more than three hours a week on a standard bike seat–can cause erection impairment (and presumably loss of genital sensation in women). Fortunately, cyclists can still enjoy riding without sex problems–if they watch how they sit on their bikes.
Men’s Breast Obsession—And Women’s
In our culture, men are assumed to be obsessed with women’s breasts. Men’s obsession is reflected in the huge vocabulary men use when discussing them: tits, boobs, jugs, hooters, melons, globes, knobs, headlights, mammaries, ta-ta’s, chest toys, fun bags, the girls, etc. In addition, ask any waitress: A low-cut top with visible cleavage means better tips. Many women complain that in conversations with men, the guys look at their breasts, not at their faces. And then there’s the old joke about a group of women who apply for a job. Some are highly qualified, others, less so. Who gets hired? The one with the biggest breasts.
Marital Infidelity: How Common Is it?
Marital infidelity is difficult to research because few people are willing to admit it. One noted survey made headlines finding that only a tiny percentage of spouses said they’d ever been unfaithful. But the researchers interviewed respondents with their spouses present. Duh!
Even without spouses present, results depend on how the question is asked. University of Colorado researchers surveyed 4,800 married women using both face-to-face interviews and an anonymous questionnaire. In the interviews, only 1 percent said they’d been unfaithful during the past year. But the anonymous questionnaire showed 6 percent.
Why Do Men Visit Sex Workers?
J.M., of Seattle, has been a sex worker for 15 years. Now around 40, charming, articulate, and looking her age with graying hair she does not color, she sees 10 men a week and gives them what they pay for. Her clients like it—62 percent are repeaters.
But after seeing the 2004 movie, “Kinsey” about controversial sex researcher Alfred Kinsey, she decided to give them something else—a survey asking who they were and why they’d turned to her. She presented results based on 225 clients at a meeting of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists that I attended. There’s no shortage of surveys of sex workers and their patrons. But to my knowledge this is the first survey conducted by a sex worker herself—and it presents an intriguing spin.
Friends with Benefits: How Friendly? How Sexual?
Friends with benefits (FWB) describes couples who are more than friends but less than committed lovers. They’re friends who, now and then, also have sex. They’re not deeply involved and remain free to date others. But they value the friendship, and feel mutual affection, and sometimes make love.
I began hearing the term FWB about 10 years ago. Most FWB relationships involve young adults, but they can develop at any age. I imagine they’ve been around in some form forever. So the concept is not new. But the term is fairly recent.
Self-Help vs. Sex Therapy: Which Works Better?
Hard economic times produce stress, and stress contributes to sex and relationship problems. It also reduces the number of people who can afford professional sex therapy. The good news is that if you have sexual issues but feel financially pinched, there’s an excellent chance that self-help resources might resolve things.
Desire in Women: Does it Lead to Sex? Or Result from It?
The conventional wisdom is that desire precedes sexual arousal. This works for most men. Men (typically men under 50) are often coiled springs of desire and easily aroused. Men often describe their libido as a drive similar to hunger or thirst. Twentieth-century sexologists assumed that women’s libido was, if not identical, then similar–and that if women didn’t feel desire, something was wrong.
Does Sex Increase Risk of Prostate Cancer?
Prostate cancer strikes 232,000 American men annually and kills 30,000—numbers similar to the toll of breast cancer on women. Could sex raise men’s risk? That disturbing possibility has been raised by several studies: Read More »»
Which Vibrator is Best?
Sex toy marketers offer dozens of vibrators. Which one is best? That depends on you and the kind(s) of stimulation you enjoy.
All vibrators vibrate. They contain motors that produce pleasurable sensations in the genitals and around the body. Beyond that, however, vibrators vary tremendously. They come in different shapes, sizes, colors, materials, and power sources.
Want To Prevent Colds? Have Good Sex Weekly
How many times have you heard—or said: “Don’t kiss me. I have a cold.” It makes sense. Close contact spreads colds, so avoiding physical intimacy with cold sufferers appears to be a sensible way to avoid humanity’s most common illness. But a study at Wilkes-Barre University in Pennsylvania shows the opposite, that the close contact of lovemaking reduces risk of colds.