Does Desire Lead to Sex? Or Visa Versa?
For most men, libido is a “drive” that propels them toward sex. They want it and go after it. But a growing body of research shows that when many women, perhaps most, begin sexual encounters, they feel erotically neutral. Then, according to Rosemary Basson, M.D., a clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of British Columbia in Vancouver, if they enjoy the sex, they eventually experience desire. In other words, for many women, possibly a majority, desire is not the cause of sex, but its result.
How Common Are Voyeurism And Exhibitionism?
Most people enjoy R-rated movies with steamy sex scenes. There’s a little bit of voyeur in all of us … and some occupations select for it for example, clinical psychology.
At the beach, the gym, or socially, many people occasionally enjoy wearing tight, form-fitting, or revealing clothing to show off some aspect of their bodies. There’s a little bit of exhibitionist in most of us, too.
But how many people are really deeply into watching sex or exposing themselves in public? That’s been a mystery but a Swedish study has investigated the issue, providing what, as far as I know, is the only real data on the subject.
- Premature Ejaculation: The Simple Program that Teaches Men to Last
- Great Sex After 40 – Full e-Book (all 91 articles)
- “You Never Want To.” “You’re Insatiable.” How Sex Therapists Recommend Overcoming Desire Differences
- Caressing Women: Advanced Erotic Tips For Men
- The Rare Truth About Penis Size
- Lubricants: The Slippery Secret Of Great Sex
- No One “Gives” Anyone an Orgasm
You’re Never Too Old for Great Sex
The conventional wisdom is that for both men and women, sexuality is like men’s hair. With age, it recedes and eventually disappears. The conventional wisdom contains a germ of truth. Aging brings sexual changes, frequently including some loss of libido, emphasis on the word “some.” The fact is, for many (most?) people, sexual desire remains [...]